So something happened with my daughter this week that absolutely infuriated me. (It wasnâ€™t anything bad that my daughter did–sheâ€™s great, and Iâ€™m an incredibly lucky mom with both of my kids. It was something with the public school system here that made me glad as hell all over again that I send her to a private school where she can be challenged at the level her brainy self needs.)
But although most of my friends have been forced to listen to my kvetching about this, itâ€™s not something I can blog about, because Blaine might one day see it as violating her privacy.
And that got me to thinking about kids and blogging, and what our progeny might one day take offense at. Iâ€™ve always used my kidsâ€™ names, though I know that not everyone does. (Iâ€™ve read lots of Jay Lakeâ€™s posts about â€œthe childâ€ and still donâ€™t know her name.) I donâ€™t think Blaine will ever mind that IÂ posted the Batgirl picture she drew (because really, that was such a rockinâ€™ drawing for a seven-year-old), but I canâ€™t know that as an angsty teen she wonâ€™t take offense at some baby story I blogged that I thought was cute.
Because we canâ€™t assume that these blogs arenâ€™t permanent–that they wonâ€™t be on the Net now in some form forever, regardless of whether we delete them. Thereâ€™s the Internet Archive, for instance, that tries to save for history copies of every web page. (They havenâ€™t come close, but they do have 55 billion saved.) If someone deletes a post (or friends-locks it after the initial posting on LJ), you can usually still see that post via a feed. And who knows what else might come along?
So I have to stop and think that someday some employer or suitor or stalker is going to type in my kiddosâ€™ names and potentially come up with all the posts I made about the kids as they grew up. Thatâ€™s a little scary.
Iâ€™m curious about people’s opinions on this, about the parameters of the decisions other parents and have made and why. If you have a moment to share, I’d love to hear.
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